Intimacy Is Human

We know you want to spend your hard-earned money on things that are truly worth it. Here's why we believe our decks are, and why we've sold over 200,000 of them. And if you don't agree, you get 100% of your money back.

1. Free questions exist, and we hope you try them

More meaningful conversations is our whole mission. We made our decks because the free questions we found online or tried generating with AI, and even the decks we paid for, never hit the spot. The kind of conversation you never forget comes from spending an unreasonable amount of time writing and rewriting with real humans. It's what we do best.

2. Years of research and real-world testing

We hand-write every card with experts who test them with their clients, and hundreds of playtesters who use them with the people in their lives. We try to make every reprint better based on customer feedback we continuously collect.

3. Informed by neuroscience and over $50,000 in programs and therapy

In the last decade we've personally gone through more than $50,000 in inner work programs, workshops, and therapy. Some of what we've learned from:

– Cognitive and behavioral neuroscience

– Internal Family Systems (IFS)

– Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

– Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

– Emotional inquiry and executive coaching

– Social and emotional learning (SEL)

– Meditation and body awareness

– Grief counseling

We draw on all of it in every card we write.

4. Made to last 1 to 2+ years

Our favorite way to use a deck is one card a week. I did this with my parents for a year, one question a week on a call, and it felt like we made more progress in getting closer than potentially decades on our own. A dinner out for two can cost $60 to $90, once. A deck used weekly for a year is only $0.75 a week.

5. Made with love and care by a small family business

We have no outside investors, so we spend extra on what we care about: recyclable and reusable packaging, 1,200 GSM boxes, matte-laminated cards, Pantone colors, and organic pigments. My mom and dad pack every order by hand, and we regularly donate decks to nonprofits and community organizations.

6. They cost less the more you add

One deck is $39. Any four are $78 ($156 separately), or $19.50 each, so you can have these conversations with everyone in your life.

Two people in a romantic relationship, at any stage, who are craving more intimacy and closeness. This deck guides newer couples to say what they want before habits set. Couples years in get to say the things that got buried under work and kids and fall in love all over again. The prompts say "you" and "we" and never assume who you are or who you're with. Ages 18 and up.

We make these decks so you can ask the questions you would otherwise never get to, and try things you would not have thought to try. Each one touches on different topics, and you'll get something different out of each. That's why we recommend bundling them.

– Loving Is Human. What do you notice about the way you date? Reflections on your patterns, what you truly want, and what you've learned about love and relationships.

– Partners Are Human. Who have you both become? The person you're with isn't the person you met, and neither are you.

– Intimacy Is Human. How deeply are you willing to be known? You'll say what you want, say the things you've never said out loud, and learn how to find your way back after a difficult time.

– Marriage Is Human. How do you build a life together? You'll talk about money, family, big life decisions, and have renewal rituals to check in with each other regularly.

This deck is designed to be accessible and adaptable to anyone, whatever shape the relationship is in. It helps most when things are on edge, because it isn't you asking the questions, the cards are. Level 1 cards are lighthearted by design, nobody has to explain a skip, and either of you can slow down or stop anytime.

Just hear it from our actual customers:

"I love things like this! My new husband not so much but he will reluctantly join in. Wow! Was I surprised!! ... I thought I would have to initiate the next time next week. To my surprise the next 5 nights in a row he initiated and read the next questions!! Last night he wanted to do 2 cards!"

Christine Lux, verified customer

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In the US, orders usually arrive 1 to 5 days after they ship, depending on where you live and the shipping option you choose. Need it sooner? Faster options are available at checkout. Outside the US, orders usually arrive in 1 to 3 weeks.

Shipping is free in the US and Canada when you order 2 or more decks. We also ship to over 230 countries and territories, and our decks have reached people in over 100 countries!

My mom and dad pack every order by hand. During the holiday rush, our wonderful partners in Tennessee help us ship some orders.

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We're confident you'll love it. Since 2023, only about 0.17% of our customers have used our guarantee.

Thank you so much for your trust and support.

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