For the last few years, the most important priority in my life has been healing the broken relationship I had with my parents.
I want to normalize working through dysfunctional family dynamics, especially within Asian-American and immigrant families where there are often significant language, culture, and generational gaps.
Here is my raw and real journey—what I did, and what I learned.
Sometimes we are so busy growing up we forget our parents are growing old.
Recommended Age: 14-100 Year Olds & Up
We’ve handpicked 50 Questions and 20 Actions to help spark connection and meaningful conversations between you and your family.
Each card includes English on one side and Simplified or Traditional Chinese (& Pinyin) on the other. Show your parents or send a picture of a card to ask a question.
Each card has a level indicated by one or two diamonds in the top left corner. Start with a few light and easy questions or jump into the hard stuff right away.
We’ve selected questions that reflect the areas people are most interested in learning about their parents—Life Events, Wisdom, Identity, and Relationships.
Our parents had painful experiences in their youth, fears & insecurities, funny stories, and a lifetime of wisdom to share. It’s never too late to get to know your parents.
We know it may be daunting to start having new conversations with your family. Stay accountable by pairing up with 1-3 other friends, ask your parents the same question every week, and gather to discuss.
Buy a Deck Fit for Your Family
If your family is from Mainland China, Singapore, or Malaysia, it is likely that they use Simplified Chinese. Ask to double check! Or just use the English side 🙂
If your family is from Hong Kong, Macau, or Taiwan, it is likely that they use Traditional Chinese. Ask to double check! Or just use the English side 🙂
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“We started with one question, ‘What is the most impactful book you ever read?’ and it led to a 1+ hour conversation.”
– Ryan Lum
“It’s the first time we had such a meaningful mom-daughter bonding experience. She finally didn’t feel the pressure to ‘parent’ me.”
– Judy Zhu
“Over the moon that this exists. We’re finally sharing stories and questions we’ve carried for years, but just didn’t know how to ask.”
– Chrislyn Choo
I wanted to get to know my parents, but I didn’t know the Chinese vocabulary to ask them meaningful questions. It has been one of the most rewarding experiences of my life, translating these 70 prompts with my parents and playing the game with them.
Use Parents Are Human To Learn Chinese
“I always tell my students on day one of class that when you speak to someone in their mother-tongue which is not yours, you are immediately saying I love you. All the more so if there are language/cultural/generational barriers within a family.”
– Spencer Baron (Chinese Teacher)