For the last few years, the most important priority in my life has been healing the broken and distant relationship I had with my parents for over twelve years.
I wanted to get to know my mom and dad before it was too late and co-created Parents Are Human to help you do the same. Let's go on this journey together.
Sometimes we are so busy growing up we forget our parents are growing old.
For Ages: 13-100+
We’ve handpicked 50 Questions and 20 Actions to help spark connection and meaningful conversations between you and your family.
Each card includes English on one side and a translated language on the other. Play in person or play remotely!
Each card has a level indicated in the top left corner. Start with a few light and easy questions or jump into the hard stuff right away. You control how you want to play.
We’ve selected questions that reflect the areas people are most interested in learning about their parents—Life Events, Wisdom, Identity, Relationships, and Actions.
Just like us, our parents had their own painful experiences, fears & insecurities, funny stories, and a lifetime of wisdom to share. It’s never too late to get to know your parents.
We know it may be daunting to start having these conversations with your loved ones. Stay accountable by pairing up with 1-3 other friends, ask your parents the same question every week, and gather to discuss.
I hired my mom, Mary Lam, and dad, Francis Lam after they had to retire early due to covid and other health complications.
They now hand-pack and deliver every order to the post office.
With each deck comes our love, prayers, and warmest wishes from my family to yours. ❤️
I have to tell you: I brought the deck home these past few days, and both times I've used it, I’ve learned way more about my parents in the thirty minutes we used the deck than the 24 years I’ve been on this earth and interacted with them. — Ruth W
We [played] for like three hours, and during those three hours were some of most peaceful and connected times that I would feel with my parents. We were just in a state of curiosity, of wonder, of empathy, of vulnerability.
I remember just afterwards, I would just be sitting in bliss and be like, oh my gosh, the world is all right. There's nothing wrong right now with the world. Everything is just as it should be. Everything is harmonious. — David Hu
I love my parents. My mom (pictured) spends 90% of our conversations giving me unsolicited work advice. Work is her passion and she excels at it, so naturally she wants to help me.
We've been stuck in a cycle; each time I visit home I'm guilty of tuning out within the first 10 minutes of her taking about work.
I bought these cards on a whim and have been using them to prompt our dinner conversations.
My parents love it. Cue reminiscing, story time, a lot of laughter.
(It's also helped me be more patient and present when my mom does talk about work 😉) — Emily Cheng
We started with one question, "What is the most impactful book you ever read?” and it led to a 1+ hour conversation.
My mother spoke about a book on fear and then related why it was so impactful.
She then told in detail an event where she was attacked at work.
I’ve heard the story before but there were certain details I forgot about and it was really interesting to hear it again.
I have so much respect for her. — Ryan Lum
I tried out the game with my mom and it's amaaazing.
It's been such a long time since we were able to connect on the same wavelength, where she didn't feel the pressure to "parent".
I was able to understand her in many more identities that I was familiar with, as daughters to our parents, as professionals, as women. We're scheduling another time to keep going through the series.
She's pretty stoked about it too. It's the first time in a while since we've had such an intensely meaningful mom-daughter bonding experience. — Judy Zhu
Over the moon that this exists.
We’re finally sharing stories and questions we’ve carried for years, but just didn’t know how to ask. — Chrislyn Choo
My family is Taiwanese and we aren't accustomed to ask each other about our days, even though every night as a child we always had dinner together.
I used this deck over Thanksgiving and it was literally the most we've ever connected outside of eating together and hiking.
— Lily C
My favourite memory during this pandemic is playing Parents Are Human with my parents over video call.
Through asking these questions that I have never asked before, I got to know them even better!”
— Angela D
Our family played your game Parents Are Human and it started a whole world wind of deeper conversations and we all bawled our eyes out.
So it was very successful. Thank you for igniting that fire, I feel closer to my fam now.
— Angel G