Marriage Is Human

We know you want to spend your hard-earned money on things that are truly worth it. Here's why we believe our decks are, and why we've sold over 200,000 of them. And if you don't agree, you get 100% of your money back.

1. Free questions exist, and we hope you try them

More meaningful conversations is our whole mission. We made our decks because the free questions we found online or tried generating with AI, and even the decks we paid for, never hit the spot. The kind of conversation you never forget comes from spending an unreasonable amount of time writing and rewriting with real humans. It's what we do best.

2. Years of research and real-world testing

We hand-write every card with experts who test them with their clients, and hundreds of playtesters who use them with the people in their lives. We try to make every reprint better based on customer feedback we continuously collect.

3. Informed by neuroscience and over $50,000 in programs and therapy

In the last decade we've personally gone through more than $50,000 in inner work programs, workshops, and therapy. Some of what we've learned from:

– Cognitive and behavioral neuroscience

– Internal Family Systems (IFS)

– Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

– Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

– Emotional inquiry and executive coaching

– Social and emotional learning (SEL)

– Meditation and body awareness

– Grief counseling

We draw on all of it in every card we write.

4. Made to last 1 to 2+ years

Our favorite way to use a deck is one card a week. I did this with my parents for a year, one question a week on a call, and it felt like we made more progress in getting closer than potentially decades on our own. A dinner out for two can cost $60 to $90, once. A deck used weekly for a year is only $0.75 a week.

5. Made with love and care by a small family business

We have no outside investors, so we spend extra on what we care about: recyclable and reusable packaging, 1,200 GSM boxes, matte-laminated cards, Pantone colors, and organic pigments. My mom and dad pack every order by hand, and we regularly donate decks to nonprofits and community organizations.

6. They cost less the more you add

One deck is $39. Any four are $78 ($156 separately), or $19.50 each, so you can have these conversations with everyone in your life.

Couples thinking about being together for the long-run, engaged couples, newlyweds, and couples decades in.

It's the perfect wedding or anniversary gift. Ages 18 and up.

We make these decks so you can ask the questions you would otherwise never get to, and try things you would not have thought to try. Each one touches on different topics, and you'll get something different out of each. That's why we recommend bundling them.

– Loving Is Human. What do you notice about the way you date? Reflections on your patterns, what you truly want, and what you've learned about love and relationships.

– Partners Are Human. Who have you both become? The person you're with isn't the person you met, and neither are you.

– Intimacy Is Human. How deeply are you willing to be known? You'll say what you want, say the things you've never said out loud, and learn how to find your way back after a difficult time.

– Marriage Is Human. How do you build a life together? You'll talk about money, family, big life decisions, and have renewal rituals to check in with each other regularly.

No. A lot of couples use it when they're just thinking about the long-run, well before the wedding. The questions about money, family and what you each expect are easier to ask while they are still hypothetical.

It can also help you better understand where you and your partner fit naturally together and where you'll need extra support. There are no perfect pairings, just people willing to work through the differences!

The deck is built for three stages: deciding to marry, the first year, and every year after. You'll find cards that don't apply yet. Leave them, and come back when they do.

Fast! We ship in-stock orders within 1 business day, and the same day if you order by 3 pm PT, Monday through Saturday.

In the US, orders usually arrive 1 to 5 days after they ship, depending on where you live and the shipping option you choose. Need it sooner? Faster options are available at checkout. Outside the US, orders usually arrive in 1 to 3 weeks.

Shipping is free in the US and Canada when you order 2 or more decks. We also ship to over 230 countries and territories, and our decks have reached people in over 100 countries!

My mom and dad pack every order by hand. During the holiday rush, our wonderful partners in Tennessee help us ship some orders.

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Thank you so much for supporting our small family business.

Our 100% Happiness Guarantee is simple. If you're not completely happy within 100 days of delivery, just email us and we'll send you a free return label and refund 100% of your purchase price.*

Try your new deck and see if it's right for you. If it isn't, send it back.

And if anything goes wrong with your order, like a shipping mishap, a damaged product, or the wrong item, just reach out. We'll make it right, whatever it takes.

We're confident you'll love it. Since 2023, only about 0.17% of our customers have used our guarantee.

Thank you so much for your trust and support.

*Plus standard shipping. Priority or Express upgrades and the optional Shipping Protection fee aren't refunded.